Marry the kind one

29 January 2016

I’m working on June’s birth story, and it seems all other posts have gotten backed up while I work on that one. However, I couldn’t let the eleventh anniversary of my and John’s first date pass without a bit of notice. There’s just one thought I want to share at this juncture, and that is: for a happy life and marriage, marry the kind one.

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The one who has never met a cat he doesn’t love, or a cat who doesn’t love him back. The one who will spend hours with your sister helping her set up a budget and cheering her on in her savings goals – and let her tag along on dates in high school. The one who records “I’ve Been Workin’ on the Railroad” on the guitar and sends it to his niece for her birthday. The one who walks through his day whistling, who hauls brush at your family’s cottage while on vacation without complaint. The one your parents love. The one who will be off like a rocket at your request for more water, apple juice, jello, popsicles while in the hospital. And the one who, as my friend Rhiannon said, will smile at you like you’re the most beautiful person in the world while you’re wearing mesh underwear and holding a crying baby at 4am a few hours after you give birth.

Yep, that’s the best advice I’ve got :)

15 Responses to “Marry the kind one”

  1. The best advice indeed :-) As my daughter is quickly turning into an adult and will leave home for college soon this is what I hope for her: that she’ll take with her the memory of our loving relationship and that she’ll choose a partner as kind and reliable as her father has always been.

  2. Hello, crying! I just love you two and your sweet relationship. Happy 11th date-iversary!

  3. So, so sweet! I bet that the photo above will become one you truly cherish. Happy 11 years! :)

  4. This is a lovely post, Em – such good insight and a fantastic glimpse into a man I’m so lucky to call a friend!

  5. Molly

    This is so sweet! AND I FORGOT ABOUT THE MESH UNDERWEAR! NO! HA. It took me six months to write/share my baby’s birth story. Like I literally worked on it for six months. It was just so emotional and I wanted to write it in a way that really captured it. I’m so glad I did! It’s so precious to me now.

  6. I love, love, love this!! You two + your marriage are so inspiring.

    This post means even more to me because I’ve said for years and years that I ultimately want to marry a man who is kind :) That’s always been my number one thing when friends ask me what my “type” is: a kind man. So YES to everything you wrote – kindness wins, always.

  7. Em

    @Molly I was a BIG fan of the mesh underwear! One of the things I wish I had snagged more of from the hospital :)

  8. Natalie

    I couldn’t agree with this sentiment more! It is the best advice. Happy 11 years you two!

  9. He is one of the best there is! Excellent write up Em.

  10. Beth

    How right you are! I was lucky enough to marry a kind one :) And so were you!! Love you two and happy dativersary!

  11. Rob

    Yep, he’s a keeper — but so are you.

  12. Elly

    Happy anniversary. What a beautiful post. And so wise. It’s magical to have found ‘the kind one’.

  13. Zoe

    Beautiful and true.

  14. YES yes yes! to this times a million. Happy dating anniversary you guys. What a sweet month and timely season to celebrate another year together!

  15. So many yes-es to this!!!! I think I picked a good one too!